>>>#9/1/21 &&&Research on Limerence

 DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND LIMERENCE

-  Limerence always ends

Techniques to quit:

• Starvation
• Consummation
• Transcendence - transfer the emotion

LIMERENCE IS THE MOST POWERFUL ADDICTION:

LIMERENCE AND 4 PHASES OF ATTRACTION

HOW TO TELL IF SOMEBODY TRULY LOVES YOU

I ended my limerence with Sarah after we are coming to the 4th year.

DECISIVELY
NOW
NO MORE CONTACT

I am ending my relationship with you.

What does this mean?  It means I am saying no to a chemical hijack.

I am finally in control of the dopamine fluctuations just as much as I am saying no to sugar and starch.

I did research between love and limerence.  In my case, what I thought of as love is actually limerence.  It is nothing more than a chemical hijack.

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Fuck it...  So what if she is not reciprocating.

I am practicing the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

It's not that she is pushing me away.

Just keep the relationship

You know honey, by the standard definition, this relationship is limerence.  However, I don't really give a f*ck because it helps me deal with a bigger issue; bipolar swings.  You are my remedy sweetie. 

That makes me very selfish.

The best way is to look at it as an open-ended relationship.  Like a regular friendship  UNLESS she is rejecting me.  In my case, it is I who want to reject myself.  I could just keep quiet a[s] (and) simply don't give a fuck.

I managed to align the timeout from you with my Quit Sugar Addiction.  I wanted to see the effect of abstinence of both since both are causing dopamine fluctuations.  Turns out you and sugar are pretty much the same feel-good feeling.

There is a silver lining though.  Now that I manage to regulate my dopamine fluctuations, I am no longer swing between extremes.  It is a pretty sedated emotion.  I have to say though, my experience with you is the best high I ever had.

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I had beef for dinner, hence I feel very relaxed especially after the Iced Dark Roast.

These are my thoughts on Els:

Basically, I have a split decision to continue the necrophiliac relationship with her.  Given a choice I want her to reciprocate the relationship.

I don't deny that it's limerence.  However, I am having a lot of fun to simply end it.  

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